A look at the problem.

“Its okay, she doesn't mind. I may have one or two to relax but that's it.”

SHE knows what it feels like. She doesn't really want to go with him, but she doesn't want to go without him either. Avoiding the issue seems to be the best course to take; as a result, she doesn't go out at all. No one has been honest about what the problem is. If it is not discussed, she thinks it will go away. But the pain of the rejection does not go away--it hurts. It hurts like hell and she is angry. Furthermore, somewhere mixed in with all those feelings is the nagging thought that somehow she is responsible. Maybe she is all those terrible things he says to her. Maybe if she is a better person he would stop drinking. At the very least maybe there is something that she haven't thought of that will make him stop.

She knew he wasn't alcoholic because she loved him and he was her husband and the father of her child and SHE DIDN'T WANT HIM TO BE!” But you know what? He is. He was and is and always will be. He has a disease called Alcoholism, which is incurable. It can be arrested, but he will be an alcoholic all his life. It is a fact of his life--and HERS.


The amount of liquor in the "one or two" is, of course, not discussed. Winning the argument is not the same as winning the battle.